Do you have “positive like minded people” around you?
I want you to take a look around at the people you spend your time with.
Are they supportive, optimistic, uplifting, inspiring?
Do they motivate you when you need that little extra push to keep going, to get through that bad day or really help you make a tough decision?
In other words……Are they Positive?
A wise friend
When I saw this status update from a friend and blogger the other day on his Facebook I knew he was right.
“Never underestimate the importance of surrounding yourself with positive like-minded people”.
( That wise person was another blogger and friend who is now a writer as well!. Dan Gheesling . He just wrote a terrific E-book. His first! –for more info. on how to see his E-book please be sure to get the link to the book below at the end of this post! -Thanks ! 🙂 )
He was talking about positive people, people who lift you up, listen to you and can make you feel you can do anything. People who look at something from the Positive side …….Not just the negative.
It’s tougher than you think to find people who no matter what your problem they listen, and this is a biggie….
RESPECT your feeling’s on a subject no matter what their opinion and feelings on it are.
I had a conversation with someone a few days ago about something that I have been dealing with for a long time. I talked about how I have been affected by my situation and how I’ve been going through a lot over it, that the answer and path was clear to me and the only one to really take to solve my dilemma. Over and over I explained it and…. over and over they just kept telling me to keep holding on and wait. Wait and to hold off on doing anything, that it would be better for me in the long run to try it their way.
I kept thinking ..”Wait? …..for what? Did you even HEAR what I have been going through!?”
No. They weren’t really listening. They couldn’t really hear me .
That person was not listening to what I was saying. To be fair, they have no idea or has ever been in my position. But he didn’t even attempt to look at it from the possible positive outcome it could bring me. They only talked about how hard it could be to do what I felt needed to be done and went over and over the possible problems it could bring. But being a friend, I wanted to talk to them. I just knew they would understand my side and be positive about it. But unfortunately, they couldn’t be that for me.
When I walked away I felt misunderstood and alone.
“Let there be light”
I was at the gym a few days later and I was thinking about my situation while working out… NOT a good idea. It was not helping my workout.
I heard, “Hey Colleen, are you taking my class?” It was a Trainer who I talk to from time to time, we started talking. He was having a cup of coffee before his class.
We started talking about things and he asked what was going on with me. It got around to my situation. We talked for a while and I told him how I felt about it and he replied back smiling, nodding, he asked questions, and even though he couldn’t know exactly how it has felt to be in my position, he still responded with understanding and I could see, he was really trying to put himself in my position.
When I had told him everything he said this to me.
“Well, Colleen, “what if you do, what you would like to do. How will it make you feel, how will it change your life?”. I thought and answered.
Then he asked me “What If you don’t do this, how will that make you feel?”. How will it change your life?. I thought and answered.
We only talked for about 20 minutes but when he left for his class I felt peaceful, optimistic and happier than I had in days. The differences between the two conversations was monumental.
The first conversation made me feel………… Like no one could hear me.
The second conversation made me feel …….Like I was theonly person in the room.
What I want YOU, to take away from this story
In the second conversation we discussed both the pro’s and con’s and they didn’t just focus on only the possible downside of my situation if I chose the path I felt was the answer. I walked away feeling relieved, unburdened, heard and understood. He was positive and optimistic and …….A good listener too.
Remember that not every friend or family member will see your side or agree with you or on your decisions. They may think as the first person I had my conversation did that my problem really wasn’t something important enough to take any action right away …Where I know different.
That’s just it really. I know what had to be done. No matter what either person had said to me. I still know in my heart what I had to do be happy. I just needed positive reinforcement. Not to be told what to do, but just that pat on the back, smile and understanding. Just to be heard.
I was reminded that day it’s one of the most important things you can give someone…..
That feeling of being simply ….. Heard.
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