A Few Helpful Ways To Handle Problems… And “Stand Your Ground”
“Holding the line”
Ever feel like your life has become that? …….You….. spending time…… just…..
“holding the line”.
By that I mean, everyone has a limit to what they can handle. Lifes situations can bring you too YOUR personal limit. You can feel like you’re losing your grip on a situation or feel you never had a grip on it in the first place. It can threaten your motivation, determination, even your hope…..
and possibly your faith.
It can be scary, stressful… and draining.
But NOT… impossible.
Have you ever felt like this guy?
Poor guy…… He just can’t seem to catch a break!.
The one thing you have to admire about him though…….Is
HE NEVER STOPS TRYING.
I wanted to write this post because I think it helps to know others can feel like you and I wanted to share with you how I keep trying and
“Hold that line” .
Good Ole’ Wylie may have his own tips on it but here are a few hopefully helpful ones of my own that I use all the time.
1. Don’t mentally give up your power.
Sometimes being in a situation that is stressful and difficult you feel like sitting it out, giving up.
Don’t do it. Easier said then done sometimes. Yes, it is.
But remember this… If ….you decide do quit, you will never know what could have been.
Picture yourself with your dream at hand…. and then without it. Which one can you live with ?
Seeing that, picturing it, playing it out in your head and feeling that possible outcome in your heart….. is HUGE.
If you can FEEL it, the best that you can, because it isn’t happening now of course, but if you can see it and get the feeling of how it could be if you don’t go through with staying the course and to keep trying and fighting..It can be the difference between you finding the strength to keep trying…..and not. So picture it. visualize it. Practice it.
2. Give yourself a break!
Guys, this one is my favorite and I have found is so important that I have been doing it more and more.
I am, please Forgive my french..
A stubborn hard ass.
It’s how I get when I’m fighting for something important to me . I LOVE that part of me…. and thank God, I am that way.
But instead of denying yourself a break which you can do. Telling yourself you should be stronger. I do that a lot to myself…Try this instead….try seeing it…. this way….
YOU WILL ACTUALLY FEEL AND BE STRONGER…. IF…. YOU TAKE THAT BREAK.
Escape from all the tension, worry and stress for a while.
3. Watching A Movie
This is a super way to power down for a bit and just relax. One rule though.
Nothing depressing. Watching a movie can take you out of your own surroundings and mind, to another place and time and allow you to relax and “reboot” ….so to speak.
4. Go Shopping
You don’t have to spend a lot of money.. I don’t want to give you another concern…your wallet ….But just getting out walking around looking at different things can take your mind to another place as well and …..hey, you might even find a couple of sales!
5. Taking A Walk.
Getting into your sneakers and heading outside can be a big help, fresh air, sunshine, or even after dinner in the evening…, if you need more going on in your head to take you mind off of your problem than looking at the neighborhood…..
6. Try Playing A Game Online
Something that takes your concentration and you need to think about but something fun.
7. Read A Book.
Like a movie can help, so can a book. it’s just a different way to go about it. But a book is a more quiet way of going about it. If you need something more to get your attention the movie would be the way to go. But a book is a wonderful way of relaxing and going to a different place in your head.
8. Keep A Journal……
When upset, write it all down, write it out where you can SEE your feeling ‘s on paper. You might see something in the way you are handling the problem that can spark another way to help you.
9. Pray……Say A Prayer Or Just Find A Place, “Breathe And Reboot”.
I’m catholic, so I pray including say my Rosary everyday, which I am very Big on. BUT…It doesn’t matter what you religion you are you may not be catholic or even religious. Hey, that’s not a problem.
If you just spend some quiet time alone and doing nothing but being quiet and not so much thinking but resting that brain that’s been racing, it can be an amazing help. Just breathe and be quiet. The whole point is to give your thought process a break and some peace, regain your calm, strength…. and equilibrium.
10. Try to come to the understanding
This one, is hard for me.
Because of my never give up give in attitude. It may be for you too. If you are dealing with a situation that may take time to straighten out and come to a point of being resolved. Somethings are just going to take time. I hate that more than I can ever tell you. But I have been thinking about it.
Here’s what I have come up with.
Some things can take 5 minutes to resolve themselves…..and some, can take 5 years. Maybe even maybe longer. So feel it out. Get in a place in your head and heart you can feel you are at a place of power with your situation. Understanding it will take time but still always knowing it will work out, that answers WILL come, that moment where your fear, or possibly worry will dissolve. You have to sometimes brace yourself for that realization that things maybe take a while.
I’m trying to do that. But as you are doing that, realize one thing, know one thing
If you keep trying, keep getting up everyday and pushing forward despite the problem pushing back….. you will prevail.
11. Talk It Out With Someone.
This sounds like an easy answer or a no brainer but when we get really upset we sometimes lose sight of the obvious.
So, find a friend, family member, clergy, whoever….. you can gain any positive feedback from and a perspective of optimism and hope. Talk too them but really
Find someone who knows you and knows your heart who has seen you fight for something and can remind you that you are truly capable of getting through this tough time and you ARE capable of getting through this as well.
Remembering A Few Good Points
Do it with optimism, Hope and courage. Not easy… No. Impossible.
No way. Remember…. you’re stronger than whatever it is despite that nagging feeling you aren’t. That feeling is fear, doubt and worry and they.. Don’t know you. They don’t know me. You don’t belive it? I know.. sometimes it’s tough. when you feel small and weak. those moment are hard. Hang on. Please . they pass. I hate them. Get mad. Remember yourself in a moment of strength and know THAT…. is truly you.
Remember, that is inside you and it’s your authentic self.
Problems will always be there ……….But you will always be there as well. Ready…. and ready to take it on and….. it’s YOU that will be standing at the end.
Remember who you are.
Again, remember this too….
If you give up you will never know. Can you live with that?
It’s asking yourself “What if” for the rest of your life or….
hanging on and fighting.
For me, there is no choice.
I’m in for the long haul. What I fight for is worth the fight.
You are. Remember that.
(Boxing stance) ………..Point me at em’!.
Thank you for coming to the blog!!!. I so appreciate you taking the time to share your comments and your time with me and others who stop by..
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Find more motivational ideas… and me… at these places as well!
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